Sunday, 17 April 2016

likes and dislikes.....

life is normal... by normal, I mean, the man and women speak, discuss and there is no real expectation to do something or talk about the affection or of the dependency..  its a feel good feeling between the two... when away, one really look forward for the other person to come back... its between a man and women....don't know if this is love.. but may be, it is... there is no live fire passion, craze or any such thing.. just a plain feel good factor and a wish that things stay the way it is....and the boat doesn't get rocked....


in comes a character, visibly over affectionate, over caring and add to the cart, over interfering as well.... generally doesn't close the mouth.. keeps talking in hush hush tone all the time and really loud the rest of the time...  with the man and when the man is away... dramatist to should learn the voice modulation from this person...


the character dominates on one of the two person, that the other person generally feels left out.. the reason for being left out is that over caring, affection etc is poured only on the man and is shown to be exhibited on the women as well..  a close observation is all required to know if it is real or faked one....obviously the man gets carried away with the superficial love and the women goes through the silent pain.... the women feels like screaming that things are not the same when the man is away....there is no opportunity to vent out for the women.. it shows off on the facial expressions... neither can swallow not spit... the women tries to include the new charter as well, but is not expert enough to make it visible...the man feels that the women is arrogant and keeps checking if the so called love and affection is receiprocated to the new character... and the women hates it... leading to irritation.. one cant think all the time before acting.. normalcy thrives on free flow of feelings...


and to add to it, the man spends time with the character on the assumption that the character is left out for all the love and affection that is being poured... tries to ignore the women to drive home some message...


No one is at fault here... some one is insecure, someone is under an obligation and someone is left out....but somewhere in the hindsight, no one realizes that the women starts to hates the character ....  hate the very sight and voice of the character.... and when the women is poor at hiding feelings, it accentuates the problem...  the women cries internally for some real care from the man and character.. not the outwardly drama...


now, a question might arise as to how the character thrives..... does the women not understand  that things are not real and can the women  not tell the man.. there comes the success of the character's title... Mother...


the man will go against the world for the mother including his women... and the mother knows that women doesn't stand a chance.... one can pardon someone who openly tortures.. but not this kind of silent killings..  hate this character... all women go through this.. just that some are gifted with sensible man who knows the universal truth that a ones mother will always be a mother in law to his wife.. and I am not a gifted one :( my silent prayer for normalcy to return continues (read it as waiting for the charter to go back.... :)....


Hope drives the world....!!!









Friday, 15 April 2016

The customary first blog post - Why did i start to blog...??!!

The customary post of why did I start to blog....


Been thinking a lot these days.. wanting to talk a lot these days.. I don't want someone to listen.. just want someone to hear... and not judge....


holding the thoughts and views is  a big burden... and it results in tears.. holding back tears leads to depression... the question arises as to why am I holding back... I am holding back because I don't have a choice...


Wait, did i say that i don't have a choice.. well i thought and realized that i did have a choice and the choice seems to be the blog... and it is not going to be a rant.. i am going to document it hilariously so that it serves the dual job of venting out my feelings and also


now that i have given the great explanation of why i started to blog, let me give some introduction about myself...


am a professional earing quite a decent salary... more than self sufficient as of now although I come from a modest background... married to a North Indian, obviously a love marriage..  i don't have any complaints about him.. am well provided and taken care of... and i am still crazy about him even after 5 years of marriage.. my parents stay with me. thanks to the fact that the husband doesn't understand tamil and the parents doesn't speak Hindi, there is no communication issue as there is hardly any communication... Am blessed with two lovely angels.. infact the little one is hardly a month old and the in-laws have come here for a month... and this is not the first time its happening and they have done it before for my first one as well...


history is repeating itself.. same people, similar dramas, familiar feelings, the husband blissfully is still the same typical Indian husband who assumes that his mom is like my mom(over caring and does all that is done for him even when his tucked in office)  and the mil is still the typical indian MIL who knows about his son and plays her dual role very effectively (when son is around and when son is not around)....


Am going to narrate the days events , as the husband is never going to understand what i go thro when he is away and my mil thrives on the blind love of his son on her... welcome to the musings of a professionally decent person who failed to make it to the list of ideal bahu....:)